Saturday, August 21, 2010


“Since forgiveness is an absolute requirement in attaining eternal life, man

naturally ponders: How can I best secure that forgiveness? One of many basic

factors stands out as indispensable immediately: One must forgive to be

forgiven.” Teachings of Presidents of the Church: Spencer W. Kimball,

(2006), 89-101


Alcohol Blackout: Types Of Blackouts, How They Work, and Consequence
by Bill Urell
Alcoholic blackouts can range from being mildly annoying to life threateningly dangerous. Do you know the facts? Read on to learn more about alcohol induced blackouts.

The occurrence of an alcohol blackout is unpredictable both in severity and in timing.

When an individual experiences an alcohol induced blackout, his consciousness remains throughout the period but will be unable to have complete recollection of what happened during that time. The events are never imprinted on the brain for recall. It’s amnesia in a way, but it’s caused by drug or alcohol abuse and not a traumatic or physically debilitating experience.

There are two types of alcohol induced blackouts commonly studied:

1. Fragmentary or partial blackouts. These tend to occur when lower levels of alcohol are taken. You might forget names or what you were talking about in the middle of a conversation. These partially interfere with memory formation during intoxication. People can sometimes remember the missing pieces if they are prompted or reminded of the context of conversation or situation.

2. Complete or en bloc, blackouts.

When a person has a complete alcohol blackout, he is still physically and mentally able to perform actions although he may seem not like his usual self. In this type of blackout, an individual is still conscious but will be unable to retain any memory of what happened during his blackout, what so ever. Prompting or reminders will not lead to recall the events. It appears that the ability to transfer and imprint memory from the present and short term to long term storage is blocked.

How alcohol and drugs can cause blackouts -
In most cases, blackouts are a result of

binge drinking, that is, consuming an excessive quantity of liquor in a brief period of time. This has been confirmed by a research conducted for the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism which reports how large and especially rapid consumption of alcohol can produce partial or complete blackouts.

One researcher states "If recreational drugs were tools, alcohol would be a sledgehammer" alcohol produces detectable memory impairments beginning after just one or two drinks. As the dose increases, so does the magnitude of the memory impairments."

Other things you should know about blackouts -

Age is a determining factor in how much alcohol you can safely consume. A woman’s tendency to black out more easily probably results from differences in how men and women metabolize alcohol. Females also may be more susceptible than males to milder forms of alcohol induced memory impairments, even when men and women consume comparable amounts of alcohol.

The dangers of experiencing blackouts -

Surveys have discovered that college students who had experienced alcoholic blackouts found out later on they had participated in various high-risk activities like engaging in sex without protection, driving under the influence of alcohol, or committing vandalism and other similar offenses.

People who experience blackouts may at that time have an impaired ability to decide and judge and possess minimal or no control at all over their impulses.
Tips for safe drinking and preventing and managing blackouts -

The only sure-fire method for not having a blackout or memory problems is to not drink. One puzzling aspect of blackouts is that the occurrence and consequences cannot be predicted.

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Love you always, Melanie

Happiness is like a butterfly which,

when pursued, is always beyond

our grasp, but, if you will sit down

quietly, one may alight upon you.

~Nathaniel Hawthorne~

Happy summertime - Kisses.

Try holding the rays of sun in the palm of your hand and you'll find it's an impossible task to accomplish... So, just BE the sun and the rays, and shine! Without any premeditation, bias or worries. Shine like the sun star that you are!

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Seth Godin on social networking.

Social networking is always useful when it's real and always a useless distraction when it's fake.

Sunday, August 15, 2010

Clown's Prayer Authur Unknown

I don't consider myself a clown; however, this "CLOWN'S PRAYER" seems to fit quite well with my intentions and purposes of posting. I hope that I will make you smile.

"Dear Lord, as I stumble through this life

help me to create more laughter than tears,

dispense more happiness than gloom,

spread more cheer than despair.

Never let me become so blase that

I fail to see the wonder in the eyes of a child,

or a twinkle in the eyes of the aged. "

"Never let me forget my work

is to cheer people,

make them happy, make them laugh,

make them forget at least for a moment

the unpleasantness in their life.

Never let me acquire success to the point

that I discontinue calling on my Creator

in the hour of need,

acknowledging and thanking Him

in the hour of plenty.

And in my final moment

may I hear Him whisper,

'When you made my people smile,

you made Me smile'."

Saturday, August 14, 2010

To ALL MY AWESOME FRIENDS, I felt like sharing this with you.

 We all face tough times. We all get knocked down occasionally. But to win any fight, all we have to do is get up one more time than we get knocked down - right? Good friends, whether in person or the cyberworld, help encourage one another to get up when it j...ust doesn't seem possible. Thanks for being my friend.

To my Grandparents in Heaven!!!

This song was played at my grandmother's funeral so long ago!!!! It brings back the best memories of my grandparents. It's not fair that I lost all of my grandparents when I was so young. RESPECT your elders!!!! If your grandparents are still alive BE THANKFUL and spend as much time with them as you can. My love for my... grandparents has never change. MY LOVE is stronger. They may not be here in the flesh but I can still feel their presents in my heart and in my soul. I love and miss you guys very much!!!! Thanks for watching over me with your Army of Angels ♥ GOD BLESS :)))

Nance runs for two scores as Falcons beat Chiefs!!! FALCON FEVER HAS BEGUN

I went to the Atlanta Falcon's game last night. I had the best time with the Nelson family and friends.

We had the best seats!!!!

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Presentaions- I'm scared to death to speak in public. I want to change this!!!

This is a article I found on presentations: I hope to overcome my fears.

Personal Branding Comes to the Rescue when Speaking Publicly

June 05, 2007

By Dan Schawbel and Lou Longo

Forty percent of all people are more afraid of public speaking than of dying. It is a national fear among students and professionals alike.

What can you do to alleviate this common stress factor? Start by investing time in building your brand and strengthening your confidence level. Everyone has a personal brand; they just need to discover, create and maintain it over time.

Personal branding defined: An individual's total perceived value, relative to competitors, as viewed by their audience.

The concept is broken into four elements: personality, appearance, competencies and differentiation. When these elements are integrated they become your core message. Your core message is unique to only you and is valued by members of your audience.

Personality: Your behavior, interpersonal communication skills and attitudes toward your audience.

Appearance: Your body language, clothing attire and overall posture.

Competencies: The technical skills that fulfill job requirements.

Differentiation: The factor that separates one individual from anther and leaves a lasting memory in the minds of the audience.

The personality element is most prominent when you are speaking publicly to either a small group or large audience. When speaking in front of an audience, your credibility is at stake and you will be judged based on members from your audience. The only way to truly linger in the minds of your audience is through personality and in this way you need to use the differentiation element to stand out from the hundreds of other voices they hear each day. This is a great opportunity to use your core message, with emphasis on personality and captivating your audience through creativity, real life examples or quotes. There are many great and talented public speakers out there, all having exceptional personal brands.

Have you ever listened to a speaker at an event or meeting that just blew you away? Did you walk out of there wondering where he or she got their training or how they were able to deliver such a great message? Then tell us, what was the message? You probably can’t remember? Four percent and 100 percent. A former colleague who always made us feel this way once gave me these numbers. He said, "People generally retain or remember four percent of the content of any presentation, speech or talk, but they always remember 100 percent of how they felt about it."

How can you have a similar affect on your audience regardless if it is five or 500 people? Prepare, relax, be yourself and then just do it. Some of the greatest football coaches will tell you that most games are won before the ball is even snapped and it is mainly a result of solid practice (preparation) and scouting (knowledge). If public speaking is either a new experience or not a currently a comfort zone, treat it like running or skiing. You do not want to start with a marathon or a black diamond, you want to ease your way in and soon you will be ready for anything.

Tips to remember.

1. Tell your audience a story that they can relate to and follow and do not be afraid to use yourself as an example when you can. Stories are not just for children—we all love a good book or movie especially when it grabs us early as we never want it to end. But it always does and then you are left with the memory of how you felt about it.

2. If you are not speaking about an experience or topic that you know flawlessly, be sure you have done your homework.

3. Be careful when quoting statistics unless you are absolutely sure about them or have the source as there could always be that one person that will try to challenge them during your talk.

4. Tell your story, your way, how you feel about it.

5. If you are not a data person then do not go up there with pie charts and graphs. It is not who you are and you cannot be something you are not either.

6. If you do not like reading from a script you can use cards. Cards are great for many people as it lets them keep their topics in good order and drive home key points.

You must decide what works best for you and then go out and do it. Think back to the very first time you ever drove a car when you were 15 or 16 years old. You were probably nervous, stiff and over-cautious and if you were like us, blew out a clutch while learning. Now, driving is natural and easy for you. Public speaking can be the same way. Whether it is a black diamond, exercising or driving a car, prepare, know the path, enjoy it and be yourself.

Dan Schawbel, personal branding spokesman, has motivated, advised and mentored both students and young professionals. He has preached, blogged and written articles for The New York Times and The Association of Career Development. Visit

Lou Longo, public speaking expert, teaches people and groups about life. His professional and personal experiences provide people with examples, lessons and recommendations on how to "Inspire First" so that the results you are looking for will naturally follow. And for when they don't, he'll show people how that can be valuable for you too. Visit

Sunday, August 8, 2010

I love Jesus!!!

John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.♥

I'm proud to be American

I'm proud to be American not just on the holidays but everyday when I wake up and I KNOW I'm free :) Thanks to all the BRAVE men and woman who fight everyday for my freedom!!!! May GOD continue to bless each and everyone of you. It's sad to see so many take what you do for granted. KNOW THAT YOU ARE LOVED AND APPRECIATED BY SO MANY ♥ GOD BLESS AMERICA ♥

Monday, August 2, 2010